Adult:

Song of Solomon 1:2 (KJV)

“Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth: for thy love is better than wine.”

YAYA:

Amos 3:3 (NKJV)

“Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?”

Adult Bible Passage: Song of Solomon 1:13–17

YAYA Bible Passage: Genesis 29:15–20

Adult Bible Passage:

📖 Song of Solomon 1:13–17 — Sustaining Affection

This passage shows deep appreciation, admiration, and emotional connection between lovers.

From the passage we learn:

• The lover expresses deep affection and emotional attachment (v13)

• There is admiration for beauty and worth (v15)

• Mutual appreciation strengthens the relationship (v16)

• The relationship is described in pleasant, secure terms (v17)

👉 Love must be expressed, not assumed.

🔎 Reflection: How can couples sustain admiration and appreciation over time?

Marriage must be nurtured intentionally to maintain excitement, passion, and commitment.

🔥 A. Ways Couples Kill the Chase

Husbands’ Role

1️⃣ Becoming neglectful and insensitive after marriage
2️⃣ Prioritising money over quality time (Song of Solomon 5:6; 3:1)
3️⃣ Leaving responsibilities entirely to the wife
4️⃣ Overlooking the wife’s contributions (1 Timothy 5:8)
5️⃣ Losing romance and affirmation
6️⃣ Refusing to apologise due to ego (1 Peter 3:7)

Wives’ Role

1️⃣ Trying to change their husbands (Proverbs 14:1)
2️⃣ Nagging and constant criticism (Proverbs 21:19; 27:15)
3️⃣ Reducing intimacy (Song of Solomon 1:2)
4️⃣ Being ungrateful (Proverbs 19:13b)
5️⃣ Neglecting appearance (Proverbs 5:19)
6️⃣ Being disrespectful and unsupportive (Proverbs 12:4)

👉 What is not nurtured will deteriorate gradually and eventually die!

🌍 B. Keeping the Spark Alive

1️⃣ Communicate openly (Proverbs 15:23; 25:11–12)
2️⃣ Initiate intimacy (Song of Solomon 1:2; Proverbs 5:19)
3️⃣ Express gratitude (Hebrews 10:24)
4️⃣ Take occasional “alone time” to refresh
5️⃣ Be adventurous together (Genesis 26:8; Song of Solomon 2:14)
6️⃣ Impress each other intentionally (Song of Solomon 4:10–11)
7️⃣ Stay present — limit distractions
8️⃣ Laugh together (Proverbs 17:22)
9️⃣ Plan meaningful experiences
🔟 Stay committed with shared goals (Amos 3:3)

👉 Love must be sustained intentionally.

A healthy relationship must be intentional, clearly defined, and directed toward marriage.

📘 A. Pointers to a Healthy Relationship

1️⃣ The Right Opinion
Understand the relationship clearly — do not assume (Proverbs 23:7)

2️⃣ Honour
Make wise decisions and respect your values (Proverbs 26:1)

3️⃣ Formal Proposal and Consent
Do not assume commitment without clarity (Genesis 24:48–51, 57–58)

4️⃣ Direction
Have clear stages and progression (Proverbs 29:18a; 1 Corinthians 14:40)

5️⃣ Accountability
Be transparent and responsible (Proverbs 10:9)

6️⃣ Peace
A defined relationship brings calm and certainty (1 John 4:18)

👉 Healthy self-worth helps believers live confidently and make wise decisions.

👑 B. Be Intentional

1️⃣ Set clear timelines and goals (Genesis 24:51)
2️⃣ Build on vision and direction (Proverbs 29:18)
3️⃣ Ensure purpose — not chance
4️⃣ Remain committed despite challenges (Genesis 29:20–28; Proverbs 12:3)
5️⃣ Build on a godly foundation (Genesis 24:12–14)
6️⃣ Set boundaries during courtship
7️⃣ Avoid sexual immorality (Hebrews 13:4)
8️⃣ Practice truthfulness in the relationship

👉 A relationship without structure will create confusion.

How Both Classes Connect

Adult Class → Sustaining love in marriage
YAYA Class → Defining relationships correctly

Together they reveal:

👉 A relationship must be clearly defined at the beginning
👉 And intentionally sustained over time

• Define it well →

• Sustain it intentionally → Enjoy it fully

Living Intentionally in Relationships

God desires believers to build relationships with wisdom, clarity, and commitment.

🔎 Ask Yourself:

• Is my relationship clearly defined?

• Am I intentional or just “going with the flow”?

• Am I nurturing or neglecting my relationship?

• Do I communicate, appreciate, and invest in it?

A believer who applies these lessons will:

• Experience peace and clarity

• Build stable and healthy relationships

• Sustain love and commitment

• Honour God in their relationships

🏆 COMPETITION PREPARATION

Focus on:

✔ Definition of a healthy relationship
✔ Ways couples kill the chase
✔ Ways to keep the spark alive
✔ Pointers to a defined relationship
✔ Intentional relationship principles

Be able to explain:
✔ Why relationships must be defined early
✔ Why sustaining love requires effort
✔ How Amos 3:3 relates to agreement
✔ How Song of Solomon reflects sustained affection

👉 Adult and Yaya Weekly Homework

👉 Adult and Yaya Mock Quiz

Father, help me to be intentional in my relationships. Teach me to define them clearly and sustain them with love, wisdom, and commitment. Let my relationships bring glory to You, in Jesus’ name.