🔹 Adult: Luke 15:12 (KJV)
“And the younger of them said to his father, Father, give me the portion of goods that falleth to me. And he divided unto them his living.”

🔹 YAYA: Luke 15:12 (NKJV)
“And the younger of them said to his father, ‘Father, give me the portion of goods that falls to me.’ So he divided to them his livelihood.”

1 Samuel 2:22–25, 29

This passage shows Eli’s parenting failure:

• He heard about his sons’ sins but did not enforce discipline (v22–24)

• His correction lacked authority and consequence (v25)

• God rebuked him for honouring his sons above Him (v29)

Parenting styles are defined by two key dimensions:

• Responsiveness (Love, warmth, support, sensitivity)

• Demandingness (Discipline, control, expectations)

🔥 A. PERMISSIVE PARENTS

High love, low discipline, warm but lenient

• Allow children to make decisions without guidance (1 Samuel 2:22–24)

• Rules are weak or not enforced (1 Samuel 3:13)

• Yield to children’s demands to avoid conflict (Luke 15:12)

Result:

• Poor decision-making

• Lack of discipline

• Potential creativity but weak structure

🔥 B. NEGLECTFUL / UNINVOLVED PARENTS

Low love, low discipline

• Children are left to fend for themselves

• No guidance or correction (1 Kings 1:5–6)

• Weak emotional connection (1 Samuel 16:10–11; 2 Samuel 14:28)

Result:

• Emotional withdrawal

• Truancy and instability

• Fear of dependence (Proverbs 29:15)

🔥 A. AUTHORITARIAN PARENTS

Strict - High discipline, low love

• Enforce strict rules without emotional consideration

• Expect obedience without dialogue

• Use harsh discipline (“tough love”) (1 Samuel 20:30)

Result:

• Low self-esteem

• Aggression

• Poor social development

🔥 B. AUTHORITATIVE PARENTS

High love, high discipline (Balanced Parenting)

• Set clear rules with understanding

• Communicate openly (Genesis 22:7–8)

• Allow learning through consequences

• Nurture and guide (Ephesians 6:4)

• Teach values intentionally (Proverbs 22:6)

Result:

• Self-discipline

• Emotional stability

• Independent thinking

• Strong character

👉 This is the biblically balanced model.

All parenting styles produce outcomes:

• Permissive → Freedom without structure → Instability

• Neglectful → Absence → Emotional damage

• Authoritarian → Control without love → Fear and rebellion

• Authoritative → Balance → Growth and maturity

👉 Parenting is a seed system — what is planted is what is harvested.

🔎 Ask Yourself:

• Am I parenting with balance or extremes?

• Do I correct without relationship?

• Do I love without structure?

• Am I intentional about shaping my child’s future?

A godly parent must:

• Love deeply

• Guide firmly

• Correct wisely

• Model Christ consistently

🏆 COMPETITION PREPARATION

Focus on:

✔ Definition of parenting styles
✔ Differences between the four types
✔ Scriptural examples (Eli, Abraham, etc.)
✔ Outcomes of each parenting style
✔ Why authoritative parenting is best

Be able to explain:

• Why Eli failed as a parent

• The danger of permissive parenting

• The balance in authoritative parenting

• How parenting affects destiny

👉 Adult and Yaya Weekly Homework

👉 Adult and Yaya Mock Quiz

Father, teach me to parent with wisdom, love, and discipline.
Help me to raise children that will honour You and fulfil their destiny.
Guide me to reflect Your character in my parenting, in Jesus’ name.